We all tend to think when we see a young woman with an older guy, that she is a gold digger and that she is just out to get what she can get. Though that may be true in some cases, it doesn’t necessarily apply to all. As they say, many a new tune can be played on an old flute.

Going by my own personal experience I can vouchsafe for the fact that older men have a lot to offer; and I don’t mean just the material things in life. I had a relationship with a guy who was more than ten years older than me, and it was one of the most enjoyable and rewarding experiences in my romantic past.

At first I tried to fend him off, but he was so charming, he finally won me over, and I am so glad that he did. In him I discovered a man who was not just charming, but who was clever, humorous, and worldly-wise. In short he was great to be around. He gave me room to be who I really am and didn’t try and bulldoze me into doing only what he wanted.

We didn’t approach things at 100 miles per hour. He generated an aura of calm, tranquility, something I found very refreshing. He wasn’t a frail old man I have to say. He had bags of energy and had kept his body in good shape – especially considering his age. It opened up my eyes, and I now look at older men in a new light.

When comparing the older man to his younger counterpart – it’s a bit like comparing cars – say a Mustang and a Chevy. Whilst one is built for speed, the other can offer a fast ride too – but in total comfort.

Next time you see an attractive older man, here are a few points to bear in mind.

An older man’s mind isn’t closed off

Guys who have been around for a little longer are often more prepared to listen to other people's points of view and ideas. They’ve been around the block and know the value of fresh thinking.

Older men are less judgmental

The more mature man has accumulated more wisdom. Because of this he is far less likely to make rash, premature judgments.

Older guys understand the real world

Based on solid experience, the more mature man knows what’s achievable and what isn’t. He won’t expect you to keep your hourglass figure, having given birth to his children. Generally speaking, older guys are more attentive. You won’t have to wear yourself out trying to make your relationship work.

He will treat you like lady

Because of emancipation, a lot of young guys treat their women like equals. However, women still like to have doors held open for then; to be helped out of cars, and to have their chairs pulled out and held when being seated. To the older man, the age of chivalry is far from dead.

Greater financial stability

Putting the notion of gold-digging to one side, it’s still rather nice to be taken out and wined and dined more than once very month, or just on special occasions. An older man may let you “go Dutch” now and again, but won’t expect it. He’s also more likely to have his own pad, rather than a room in the attic at mum’s and dad’s.

No pitter-patter of small feet

Kids are great, but not in some circumstances. Having small children around can be a real hassle. It doesn’t matter whose they are, they need attention when they want it, and that can put any new relationship under strain.

Older guy will already have found himself

Young guys are often still growing up. Maturity and assuredness come with age. Older guys have already discovered who they are. They know what they are looking for and how to find it. There is no substitute for experience.

Older men are more likely to value your opinions

With young guys, the girlfriend is just there for fun, and they are just out satisfy their own goals. An older man will appreciate that women’s views are just as valid as men’s, and he is more likely to run things past you for a genuine opinion.

Guy nights a thing of the past

We all know that boys will be boys and like to gang together for frequent nights out. The older man is no longer the boy. He been there, done that, got the tee-shirt and now prefers female company. It’s more likely to be nights out for both of you with other couples, rather than a few pints with the lads.

Older men are sources of sound advice

As we grow older, we live and we learn. There are not many things that an older guy won’t have seen or experienced before. Whether it’s a work issue, a social issue, a financial issue or affairs of the heart; an older man will help you to address the problem.

There is no doubt in my mind, and there should be none in yours. You can enjoy a great relationship with an older man.